"Even in a house full of trophies, it’s friendship that makes life feel full." Hey Reader, One of the surreal parts of this new chapter, being “The Friendship Guy” and one of the leading friendship experts in the space, is that I get to do things I never imagined. I love meeting people, I always have. People seem to feel comfortable opening up to me (so keep those personal emails coming). Sometimes I get calls that the me who moved out here to chase my dreams would never believe. The best...
9 days ago • 3 min read
Friendship can’t depend solely on motivation, it has to depend on meaning and duty.” Hey Reader, Most people treat friendship like a mood.They wait to feel social.To feel talkative.To feel like showing up. But if you only connect when you’re motivated, you’ll almost never connect. Everyone bails sometimes, even me, your Friendship Guy.I skip dinners when I’m tired.I bail on kids’ birthday parties when I have to cross the 405 (Angelenos understand this).I’ve mysteriously come down with...
16 days ago • 2 min read
It’s not just the people you miss. It’s who you were when they were around.” Hey Reader, There are now 14,000 of you reading The Friendship Habit each week. That number blows me away. When I started this, I just wanted to help a few people feel less alone. Now it feels like we’re all building something bigger, a community that treats friendship like fitness: something you train, not just talk about. If this newsletter’s helped you reconnect, you’ll love my new Audible Original The Buddy...
23 days ago • 3 min read
"Every habit you have is a chance to strengthen a friendship." Hey Reader,Every morning, I take an ice-cold shower while rattling off my gratitude list out loud. Yeah, I know it’s ridiculous. I’m half-frozen, mumbling “my wife, my kids, my newsletter readers…” like a lunatic auditioning for a gratitude cult. After doing it for about a year, it finally hit me. It’s not the cold shower that wakes me up. It’s the daily reminder that happiness isn’t about intensity; it’s about consistency. The...
30 days ago • 3 min read
"Friends aren’t lottery tickets. They’re compound interest." Hey Reader, Thanks for being one of 8,000+ readers who’ve decided to prioritize friendship. You’re here because you know it matters...but you also know it doesn’t just happen. Each week I give you a 👥 Friend (wisdom), a ⚒️ Fix (action), and a 📘 Reco (something worth your attention). Think of it as your weekly framework for making friendship a habit, not a hope. 👥 The Friend Lately I’ve been thinking about my portfolio. In my 20s and...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
“Age isn’t a barrier to friendship. It’s an advantage.” Hey Reader, There's something that's really been bugging me from the replies I get from all of you. I want to address the Myth of the Expiration Date. Too many of us act like friendship comes with an expiration date. Make your “real friends” in college, maybe add a couple at work in your 20s, maybe one or two more when you have your first kid and after that? Forget it. But friendship isn’t yogurt. It doesn’t suddenly go bad after a...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
“Adulthood takes away rituals. Fandom gives them back.” Hey Reader, Have you ever walked into a bar, seen a group of friends having a great time, and thought about asking if you could join them? Probably not...it would feel socially awkward. But if they’re all wearing a team’s logo, and you’re wearing the same logo, not only is it acceptable, it’s welcome. That’s the beauty of sports fandom. It’s inviting. I put this to the test last week in London, when I wandered into an Eagles bar. Now,...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader, Proximity is the ultimate friendship hack. I’ve loved my travels this summer. Paris was romantic. London was an adventure. But as the trip winds down, I find myself looking forward to something simple: my neighborhood. A few years ago, without realizing it, I hacked geography. My office is in the center of town and I share it with a fellow dad. My basketball league plays at the gym down the street. My kids’ playground is walking distance. That’s the real hack: designing your life...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader, Have you ever make a connection so crazy it can’t be a coincidence? As you know, I’ve been on a Friend Quest in London, pushing myself to do things I wouldn’t normally do to spark real connection. Back in Paris, we met a group of Brits and traded emails (the kind you assume you’ll never use). Weeks later, we realized we were on the wrong train...not literally, but in life. We were in the wrong city for us. And the longer you stay on the wrong train, the more costly every stop...
2 months ago • 2 min read
